GRIEVING IS THE CURE FOR GRIEF- DO IT RIGHT

Grief is a natural response to loss. Grief is lonely and a supremely personal thing. The entire process is a mish mash of various emotions. It starts with denial, anger, depression and finally acceptance. Grief is numbing and that is a blessing in disguise. Denial, like the floodgates of a dam, allows only as much grief that the person can handle. It helps to get us through the day till we are ready to accept the loss. It’s the scab on the wound that allows skin’s healing underneath. As denial fades it makes way for anger. Some anger is healthy, vent it out. The only…

HELP KIDS HELP THEMSELVES

The world our children are inheriting is not the same that was handed down to us. To make it worse, along come incidents like the recent episode where the unspeakable happened to a little girl in her school and the heinous crime allegedly was committed by a school employee. As we wait for justice to prevail, we also confront lot of questions and situations that make us squirm. We question humanity, look for answers and find none. Eventually we make peace with it, shrug it away and hope we are never in those shoes. But if wishes were horses, beggars would…

BLUE WHALE AN ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM

This has raised questions that have been lurking around and we have not had the courage to face. It’s the proverbial ‘Elephant in the room’ that we cannot wish away. The only way out is to tackle it. What made it so simple for a lunatic psychopath to poach for possible victims and be successful in it? It has something to do with the innocuous nature of the medium and the anonymity it offers. He hid behind it, waiting patiently to pounce upon an unsuspecting victim. At least in the real world we could fathom what we were up against….

CHILDREN- WHAT MAKES THEM MORE VULNERABLE?

Little children and their vulnerability is something so obvious that we accept it as a default and hardly ever think of probing the reasons for it. Beyond the obvious thing, that they are…..well little and easy to overpower and may not be good in expressing their problem, there is a scientific basis to it. If we make an effort to understand that, it might give us an insight into how to deal with it better. Little babies are like sponges and absorb everything…smells, sounds, touch…literally everything! But of all the senses, it is the tactile sensation that has a major role to play….

MENTAL HEALTH IN WORKPLACE

We spend the better part of our day and the best part of our lives at the workplace. But for most of us it is a job to be done and not something to be enjoyed. Imagine if you did what you loved, you literally would not have to work a day. There are so many who go through mid-life crisis which leads to some changing their tracks and the others succumbing to it. How often we applaud the entrepreneur turned farmer or a doctor turned bassist but never stop to think what made them do it. Had such people followed their…

POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION- THE GREAT MASQUERADER

A baby’s arrival is surrounded with excitement and unbridled joy. The air is thick with expectation and advice flows in from all corners. And what with the media kicking up the dust, the pressure to look and feel happy just gets intensified. The new mommy finds herself in the centre of all this brouhaha. And naturally she too is expected to be all hunky dory about it. But what if that is not the case? No one tells her its ok to be overwhelmed, its ok to feel broken, its ok if she cannot smile and rather wants to burst…

SUICIDE- COMMIT AGAINST IT

Did you just Google it? Am I glad or what that Google threw me and you picked it up? You know what…you aren’t the first one who has tried to search it. At the cost of sounding presumptuous, let me say that ‘suicide’ is jostling with the celebrities as an oft googled item. So if you have been fobbed off by people around you saying that ‘it is cowardly’ or ‘that no problem is big enough to contemplate suicide’, choose not to believe in any of it.No one except you is in your shoes to be able to empathize. Suicidal thoughts…

How to Introduce Time Management to Children

I have a sprightly nine year old who like her favourite character ‘Hermione Granger’ (from Harry Potter series) has to be the first one to raise her hand for any activity that her class teacher announces. I have neither had the heart to stop her nor the intention to do so. But what I had always intended to do was to teach her how to manage time. And to achieve that I started as early as her play school days. The visual imagery that goes with the term ‘Time management’, is probably an MBA class or an HR exercise of…

Child support for working parents is no child’s play

The source of a working mother’s dilemma is the choice that she’s often forced to make between her child and her work. Both are dear to her and its painful to make a choice when she’s pushed to a corner. Not to forget that she’s judged severely, whatever she picks.  As more and more women get educated and become career oriented, woman workforce is becoming a force to reckon with. HR departments can no longer ignore them or turn their back on women specific problems. They necessarily have to reinvent their packages and perks to become gender inclusive. Ministry of…

DEPRESSION: SEEK AND YOU WILL FIND

I’d look on the brighter side…….If I could find it Eeyore (Winnie the Pooh) Nothing can describe depression in a simpler and yet such a precise way. Depression is like living in a body that fights to survive with a mind that doesn’t cooperate. It’s brave enough that such people go on with the businesses of life when actually they feel lost. Probably the worst part about depression is that people who don’t have it, just don’t get it. Unlike physical illnesses, mental health problems are surrounded by misinformation and hence taken rather lightly. With physical ailments no one says…