THINGS CHILDREN TEACH US, IF ONLY WE LEARN

I have always maintained that God had a plan when he sent us on earth as little babies, and not as readymade adults.They are a touch of heaven on earth and are there to remind us that life begins with a clean slate. Their presence in our lives is like an opportunity given by God to cleanse ourselves.  Till we sully them with our grown up stuff, they have a lot of lessons to teach us, if we are in a mood to learn.  In my nine years of motherhood journey, here are some such nuggets of wisdom that my…

Dear men, clean up your act

I was watching the Filmfare Awards on sunday night and Vidya Balan was awarded for her performance in Tumhari Sulu. In celebratory mode, she did a small jig onstage on one of her songs, in gay abandon. She was at her uninhibited best but I couldn’t help notice her husband watching her so lovingly when the camera panned on him for a second. Awww…. It was so endearing.  I wondered why that look struck me and then I knew. I recognized that look , it was so familiar. I have often seen the same half loving and half bemused expression…

Oh Papon! Why Did you have to do this?

Dear Papon You were the lovable, likeable singer…. The smiling mentor, family man and friendly figure….  That mental image is so difficult to wipe away. But the videos and news clips cannot be ignored.  With that one act you not only ruined your image….. You did much worse…. You have tarnished the mentor-protégé equation. The guru shishya parampara that our country still upholds even if, in it’s modern day avtar.  Not much fan of reality shows but music based shows are my thing. And those little kids with so much talent tug at my heartstrings.  And I always felt that…

The day my child inspired ME

Child is the father of man. That’s an oft heard phrase but how true it is,becomes evident only after you have a child of your own. I’m blessed with a very sensitive and perceptive child. Her maturity belies her years and it still takes me by surprise when I see how she handles people and situations so deftly when she’s on her own. Her reactions to negativity and how quickly she distances herself from it is inspiring.  There are so many incidents I could recount that have inspired me but I’ll share the most recent one.  We have an annual…

Tweenagers – They are there but just not yet

Tweens is that twilight zone in a child’s life when she is no longer a baby and not a teenager yet. Till a few years ago, we were blissfully unaware of this terminology but today we cannot afford to ignore it. These days most urban households are children centric so by the time they are around ten, they have a voice that’s heard and they have an opinion on everything that concerns them (or for that matter even if it doesn’t concern them)  How do I know this? I have a tweenager in the house!! Although teens are still a…

My child’s homework is her responsibility

Wherever I would go, I would see moms fretting over their kids’ school work. Earlier it would be whenever they met or spoke and then Whatsapp happened. Now we have whatsapp groups of mommies whose kids are in the same class. Such groups are the busiest ones despite being devoid of the customary good morning and good night messages. The circadian rhythm of such groups is very different. Their day begins AFTER the school day ends. There’s a barrage of the day’s assignments which is like a cue for the endless discussions to begin. And on and on it goes…

Gender Equality in parenting – There’s hope in the horizon

Till yesterday, Alexis Ohanion never figured in my list of people I would have been interested in knowing. But one picture doing rounds on the social media made me sit up and notice him. The image was of a bearded man, bottle feeding his little daughter as the mother of his child played a match. The mother in question is the legendary Serena Williams. And the man who stole the limelight was Alexis Kerry Ohanion, Sr. He is an American Internet entrepreneur and investor, who is co-founder and executive chairman of the social news website Reddit. Recently he announced he…

Advice my parents gave me that stayed with me

Parents are always on the ‘advice mode’. I used to mentally roll my eyes every time an advice was doled out. But now after becoming a parent I relate to it more than ever. I find myself going on and on about this or that with my daughter whether she likes it or not. I think its the protective parent reflex that kicks in which wants them to prepare for any situation life throws at their kids. Momspresso threw this prompt, ‘Advice my parents gave me that stayed with me’. That got me thinking. There are so many nuggets of…

#PADMAN – A good excuse to initiate the ‘Birds & Bees’ talk with your kids

#PADMAN was a much anticipated movie for me because I had read the story of the real padman , Mr. Arunachalam Muruganantham and had been truly impressed with his conviction. For someone with no degree, he went on to become a social entrepreneur inspired solely by the love for his wife earning him the status of a modern day Shah Jahan.  I have never understood why every generation of women passes on the legacy of shame and embarrassment to their daughters. Why a biological phenomenon gets tagged with blind superstitions which can have dangerous implications? As a doctor and a…

MAKE MARRIAGE A PRIORITY

Marriage is like twirling a baton, turning hand springs or eating with chopsticks. It looks easy until you try it. -Helen Rowland Whoever said marriage was easy has to be single. Marriage was never meant to be easy. It is complicated and messy but if you figure your way through it, its love and companionship and so totally worth it. No relationship is without conflict. How we handle that conflict forms its bedrock. Often we are so caught up in proving that we are right, we sidetrack from the main issue. Try to see beyond that so you can understand…