Grief

Grief is a lonely space to be in. Though there’s no comparison but just like religion, it’s a supremely personal thing. And though we go through the motions of expressing our condolences, I feel that there is an invisible, impenetrable wall around the bereaved. How do you reach out to them through that? The void that they are unable to comprehend, how do you even attempt to fill it? What I do know is that on the road to acceptance goes through denial, anger and depression. How long every stage lasts, is very subjective. Some collect themselves admirably quickly and…

Let The Haters Hate….

My foray into writing, on a serious level, is very recent. My steps are still very tentative, as I gingerly tread on my chosen path. How my pieces are received do keep me on my seat’s edge. I hear nice things about my writing and it does give a boost to my confidence. Just when I thought I was sliding into this smoothly, there came my first troll. I was angry, I was hurt, I was shocked at the bitterness that laced the comment. My carefully built confidence came down crashing like a house of cards. More than anything else,…

A Gender Equal Utopia

I was not born a feminist, neither was I raised as one…. I was forced to become one! My sister and I were raised with a lot of love and gender equality wasn’t something that had to be taught to us, it was a given in our house.  My mother is a woman of quiet strength but definitely not one to march on the roads for women’s rights. This was the time when wishing for a son was the norm but my father had always wanted daughters. We had a regular childhood and thanks to the fact that we lived…

Ignorance Is Kind

I hate cats… Not that I like dogs either but I can tolerate them at least. Cats on the other hand have got too much attitude. I do so wish I had a bit of that swag though. And they are so in their own world… happy with themselves. So even if I hate them, I can’t stop being envious of them either. When I first came across Gwendolyn Brooks’ quote- ‘One reason cats are happier than people is that they have no newspapers’, I had chuckled to myself. But in the past few years, as I’ve gradually moved away,…

Keep Calm And Move On

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference…. I don’t recall, when was the first time I came across this prayer. What I do know however is, how often I have fallen back on it, when faced with situations where I wanted to scream, but held myself back knowing fully well that screaming wouldn’t help me or the situation either. And every time I have resisted this urge to scream, I have thanked God that good sense prevailed on me. The futility of…

Forgive And Allow Yourself To Heal

Jesus said “Father, forgive them for they do not know what they are doing” –Luke 23:34 ……And this, when he was being crucified with criminals on either side who were abusing him surrounded by people who were mocking him. My initial schooling was in a convent school and this line would keep reappearing in the morning assembly, in the moral science class, on the playground…. you get the drift. And I used to wonder, do the sisters (nuns who would teach us), hear it themselves? Because forgiveness didn’t seem like one of their virtues when they would be reprimanding us…

Miracles Are Not Contrary To Nature, But Only Contrary To What We Know Of Nature

When I took up medicine, I was and still am often asked, ‘do you believe in miracles?’ If they have the time to listen to me, I often share this anecdote that I read long ago, but whose source still remains unknown; God was once approached by a scientist who said, “Listen God, we’ve decided we don’t need you anymore. These days we can clone people, transplant organs and do all sorts of things that used to be considered miraculous.” God replied, “Don’t need me huh? How about we put your theory to the test. Why don’t we have a…