Period Talk Isn’t A Mommy Job Alone, Bring In The Daddies Too

My daughter is very close to my husband and I can’t grudge her that. He’s the fun parent after all…. funnier and more playful. Whereas I’m the bad cop of parenting. So, when she ‘chooses’ me to confide about some of her stuff, you can imagine my happiness. It’s nothing short of a badge of honour. What makes her pick one parent over the other has failed me and frankly so long as I am the chosen one, I’ve never bothered to find out either. All was well in our world till we started talking about growing up, puberty and…

Period. End of Sentence- Why Watch It With Your Children

Oscars brought a reason for cheer as little documentary from India made it big. The UP-based documentary film Period. End of Sentence emerged winner in the Best Documentary short category. It’s a reason to cheer on many levels. The fact that it’s a crowd funded project, or that it is produced and directed by women and above all it talks about menstruation…. In India… where its not just the taboos but the squeamishness surrounding it that makes it a hush hush affair. To bring this subject out in the open is a great step towards initiating discussion. It gives hope that we…

My Daughter And I: New Year Goals

Making resolutions is something we all do and most if not all, also end up NOT sticking to them. Yours truly is no exception to that and fed up of my ways, in 2018 I finally ‘resolved’ that this would be a ‘no-resolution-year-for-me’. If I say, it took a weight off my shoulders, that would be an understatement. 2018 was a very unpredictable year, with so many changes and transitions and I quite enjoyed the adventure that came with going with the flow. Hopping off the resolutions’ bandwagon allowed me a vantage point to look at my life as an…

No, I Am Not A Good Girl #AmWriting

Puja was busy pottering around the kitchen, with so many guests coming in and going out. Her father-in-law had received an award and the celebration was just going on and on. Since it was her daughter Diya’s vacations, she didn’t mind this. In fact, the festivities felt like Diwali had come early. Her eight-year-old was a people’s person. She loved interacting with them and Puja too felt that it was a good experience for her to meet different kind of people. As she smilingly came out with yet another round of tea and snacks, she heard her mother-in-law (MIL), Usha,…

Parenting Is Roller Coaster Ride- Part Joy Part Guerilla Warfare #AmWriting

One of the bizzare reasons my father always wanted daughters was, he thought they were calmer (though he may have changed his opinion forty years down the line). Ours, my sister and mine, was quite a sedate childhood. I use the adjective ‘sedate’, when I compare it to the boy’s, I met in my residency, whom I later married. When I saw him first, I couldn’t help noticing a scar on his forehead, I was reminded of Harry Potter (I’m an unabashed fan and at that point had just finished the series). I asked him how he got it, to…

It’s NOT Mumma’s Job

I am married to a feminist stronger than I am and this I realised with even more clarity after my daughter was born. Even before her birth, both of us would manage our house chores as a team but around the time my daughter was a toddler, I sensed that my husband became quite proactive in doing these chores. As a tired mum, I was more than grateful to receive help of any kind. But his steadfast insistence made me sit up and take note and I wondered aloud as to what his reason was. And his answer brought me to tears…

Let’s Walk The Talk This Mother’s Day

With all that noise around Mother’s Day, reaching a crescendo, I had a bizarre thought. I can already imagine mommies up in arms as they read what I have to say. Let me begin with a disclaimer, I owe my existence and whatever I am, to my mother. Happy Mommies Day, Amma! And I am a mother myself so I am taking the liberty to show the mirror to the new age mums (including myself). Having cleared that, let me get to the point. I feel our generation of mothers is quite fortunate to get a lot of attention. That’s…

Why I let my child skip school

5.30AM- The cruel alarm buzzes away pushing me to get out of bed. Snoozing is a luxury I deny myself. 6 AM- Time for the little one to be nudged out of her slumber. “5 more minutes, Mamma”, that sleepy voice pleads. My heart melts and she gets a snooze. But the next wake up call is equally heart breaking. This scene is replayed almost in loop every day for five days of every week. And I ain’t the only one who goes through them. All households with school going kids goes through this. Little one gets up and grumpily…

THINGS CHILDREN TEACH US, IF ONLY WE LEARN

I have always maintained that God had a plan when he sent us on earth as little babies, and not as readymade adults.They are a touch of heaven on earth and are there to remind us that life begins with a clean slate. Their presence in our lives is like an opportunity given by God to cleanse ourselves.  Till we sully them with our grown up stuff, they have a lot of lessons to teach us, if we are in a mood to learn.  In my nine years of motherhood journey, here are some such nuggets of wisdom that my…

The day my child inspired ME

Child is the father of man. That’s an oft heard phrase but how true it is,becomes evident only after you have a child of your own. I’m blessed with a very sensitive and perceptive child. Her maturity belies her years and it still takes me by surprise when I see how she handles people and situations so deftly when she’s on her own. Her reactions to negativity and how quickly she distances herself from it is inspiring.  There are so many incidents I could recount that have inspired me but I’ll share the most recent one.  We have an annual…